Lately I have been wandering the net looking for ex-JW sites as well as JW sites. None compares to what goes on here. They are great people who have shared their stories and supported others. That alone is uncomparable. Went I left the borg there was nothing like the support found here.
Despite the problems many of us find here we can look at them as a training ground. Most of us were in a very protected environment while we were in the borg - many of us for most of our lives. Learning to deal with real life is a shocker for many. In the anonymity of our homes, safe behind our computer screens we can release a lot of the emotions that were pent up for so long. A WT defender shows up and we hurl our anger in their direction forgetting that not too long ago we were one of them and would have done the same things
We have opportunities here to learn how to be different. How to honestly stand up for what we believe in (even if the only thing we are sure of is the inaccuracy of the WTS). We have the opportunity to ignore the trolls (not only are they here - expect more of them).
Like most victims of abuse we use the same tired useless techniques to make our points. They get us nowhere. Just like knocking on empty houses and speaking to people who are not interested we continue to post to JWs who are not interested in what we have to say. We perpetuate the WT abuse on ourselves now by banging our own heads against the wall. Time to break out of this cycle of abuse and move on. And this is a great place to do that.
I am always looking for a place to grow, to learn and to change. I choose when to talk to the trolls and when to move on. I choose when to say what I feel and when to be quiet. I am no longer controlled by WT dogma, and propaganda and I no longer work on autopilot. I assess, define and think. I consider my options and make choices. I have learned a lot here and I look forward to refining my thinking abilites. Fredom from WT contol is a wonderful thing. I love it.
Thank you Simon
